As the time is now creeping into the school year and new friends and faces are at hand. You may wonder how to encourage your child, if your child is a bit shy and withdrawn from other kids.
I know first hand how you feel as a mother, coming home from school and a lunch has not been touched, as well as a child who looks at you with a long face not knowing how to tell you he or she feels as if no one wants to play with them.
We recently had a huge life change that involved us to have to move from our location... meaning a new school. So, with all the kids who may have already established the new friendships in the earlier years. My child was one who had to find a new group of peers to get to know and learn to adapt to the new school.
This was a challange for us all. No one wants to have a child come home with a sad face, saying they just have no one to play with.
So, I first had to find a way to encourage my child that everything was going to be fine, and she will learn to make new friends. First thing I did was call the school and ask to speak with her teacher about the issues, and about my child's backgroud. Every child is different. One child may like to play with Barbies, while the other child likes Lego's. I then asked, questions... what is she playing with at school, in terms of toys and out door play? I am involved in her at home as much as I can be. We read to each other, and interact as well.
So one thing that I was also encouraged to do was to write a letter and send it with her to school to ask other parents for a play date. This way when she has one on one time with new friends, she will find a way to expand new friendships in school.
Last but not least, ask them what is on their minds. One thing I have done with my own child was always notice certain changes in her mood. A quite child, was something she always was but I know when she seems to be talking a lot... I notice she is a happier child. It may take them awhile to open up, but I notice when you get into their world, and talk to them as a friend and parent... they seem to relate and open up.
So when you encourage your child to be more outgoing, give it time... and address it to their school your concerns. They sometimes have different groups that separate the less outgoing children from the more outgoing children. They can learn to find new friendships this way.
Tuesday, 8 November 2011
Wednesday, 26 October 2011
The Journey of Adoption
I remember not too long ago, getting down on my knees and praying for a child of my own. One to love, and care for.
I was in my mid-thirties before I realized it was not happening the natural way. With alot of factors in mind... I had to find my true nature inside of me.
I was not one who loved to take medication or to follow simple rules. So my journey to adopt a child was well on the way with love in my heart... I had to step up to who I really was as a human, and what I wanted in life.
My life had never been simple, in fact it was quite different from my friends. I never had a father growing up... my own father passed away when I was five. So from that day on, I knew life was going to a challenge and I had to think differently.
I was good at the outer box thinking. So that was when I wasted no time getting on the adoption list as soon as I could. I was a live-out nanny and knew I loved kids and wanted my own someday.
As the time I spent on getting baby clothes ready, and putting a bedroom together for my new unknown child who was on the way, I was still unsure of what the new child was going to be and the age was also a mystery.
I used the law of attraction on every level with this thought. Deep down, I wanted a little girl who was healthy. Although, on the list were waiting parents who also wanted the same thing. I also decided to paint the room a soft yellow with all the books and settings perfect for my new loved one to arrive.
I was scared and felt this journey was never going to happen. We would put in for a child, and hope to get short listed, then all the home studies. I personally felt as if "why... do we have to go through all this process, when other's can just have a baby without problems?" Then, I was quickly reminded... I was not all others and this is who I was as a person. I was open arms already in love with my new child, before I even met her.
The day I met her on paper... I knew, from the moment I sat my eyes on her she was the one. Her big chubby cheeks, and beautiful blue eyes caught my heart. However... I had loved kids like my nieces, this one was a different feeling. I knew she was and had to be mine. I wrote her social worker, but then never gave her my letter. It was not doubt, it was something else... I just did not want to ruin the road of adoption.
I remember our last meeting in our adoption/ foster training class we had to take. Our personal social worker was sitting in with us and she kept looking at us as a couple. At the end of the night, as we were walking out the door... she pulled me aside as she told me"YOU GOT HER!"
She was ours and on the way! I could not believe it. A nine month old baby girl, one to enjoy and to love.
This was my journey of Adoption.
By: Charlotte Tersigni
I was in my mid-thirties before I realized it was not happening the natural way. With alot of factors in mind... I had to find my true nature inside of me.
I was not one who loved to take medication or to follow simple rules. So my journey to adopt a child was well on the way with love in my heart... I had to step up to who I really was as a human, and what I wanted in life.
My life had never been simple, in fact it was quite different from my friends. I never had a father growing up... my own father passed away when I was five. So from that day on, I knew life was going to a challenge and I had to think differently.
I was good at the outer box thinking. So that was when I wasted no time getting on the adoption list as soon as I could. I was a live-out nanny and knew I loved kids and wanted my own someday.
As the time I spent on getting baby clothes ready, and putting a bedroom together for my new unknown child who was on the way, I was still unsure of what the new child was going to be and the age was also a mystery.
I used the law of attraction on every level with this thought. Deep down, I wanted a little girl who was healthy. Although, on the list were waiting parents who also wanted the same thing. I also decided to paint the room a soft yellow with all the books and settings perfect for my new loved one to arrive.
I was scared and felt this journey was never going to happen. We would put in for a child, and hope to get short listed, then all the home studies. I personally felt as if "why... do we have to go through all this process, when other's can just have a baby without problems?" Then, I was quickly reminded... I was not all others and this is who I was as a person. I was open arms already in love with my new child, before I even met her.
The day I met her on paper... I knew, from the moment I sat my eyes on her she was the one. Her big chubby cheeks, and beautiful blue eyes caught my heart. However... I had loved kids like my nieces, this one was a different feeling. I knew she was and had to be mine. I wrote her social worker, but then never gave her my letter. It was not doubt, it was something else... I just did not want to ruin the road of adoption.
I remember our last meeting in our adoption/ foster training class we had to take. Our personal social worker was sitting in with us and she kept looking at us as a couple. At the end of the night, as we were walking out the door... she pulled me aside as she told me"YOU GOT HER!"
She was ours and on the way! I could not believe it. A nine month old baby girl, one to enjoy and to love.
This was my journey of Adoption.
By: Charlotte Tersigni
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